Childish Violence

When I was nine, I had a friend who liked to punctuate her sentences by slapping people on the arms and shoulders.  She thought she was being playful. It hurt.  While it never left bruises, there would often be a red mark that took time to fade.  She especially did it to the boys she thought were cute.

We all asked her to stop, on multiple occasions.  She giggled and thought it was funny.  One day she did it to me when I was in a particularly bad mood, and rather than protest, I hit her back.

“Ow”, she said.  “That hurt.”

“I know,” was my response before walking away.

She never hit me again.  A couple others threatened to do the same and she stopped the habit entirely.

A couple years later I witnessed a similar situation.  This time, it was a girl constantly smacking a friend of mine that happened to be a boy.  I advised him to do what I had done, and his response was ‘boys don’t hit girls’.  So, the next time she did it, I smacked her.  We had a similar conversation, and she left us both alone afterwards.

It’s hypocritical to think that girls hitting boys is acceptable, especially when trying to teach boys that they shouldn’t hit girls.  Girls are fully capable of being bullies, and hitting is bullying behavior.  It’s not cute.  It’s not funny.  It’s bullying.  Call it by it’s proper name, and call it so every time you see it.

Adult women should already know better.  Unfortunately, some don’t.  They especially should be called out on their bullying behavior, and have it pointed out to them how childish it is to not understand that hitting people isn’t cool.

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Emotional is not synonymous with Irrational

There are cases in which pure logic leads to failures of things like ethics, and frankly, those cases are all far worse.

For example, it costs $10,000 to do a recall of an item. It is estimated that the item will kill seven people if not recalled. Each person it kills will cost the company $1000.

What is the logical decision?

What is the rational decision?

What is the right decision?

We know, based on far too many actual events, that in many cases the ‘logical’ decision is made and the companies don’t do the recalls, leading to people dying. It’s the logical decision for them, the net benefit is to the company. Does that make it the right decision?

Here is another one. Gas prices are currently $4.00 per gallon. For each 100 middle eastern children killed by a bomb, gas prices will be lowered by $0.10 per gallon. Each bomb costs $100,000. Each bomb kills an average of 10 children. Each day the US uses 360 million gallons of gas. How many bombs should the US drop?

What is the logical decision?

What is the rational decision?

What is the right decision?

Based on current events, the US has decided to bomb children in order to increase the profits to the gas companies.

Other examples – The housing market crash. Setting up a ponzi scheme. Firing 10,000 employees rather than forgo your bonus.

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The 101

Before you come in to ‘just ask a question’ in so-called ‘good faith’, visit one of the following sites:

http://www.talkorigins.org/

http://rationalwiki.org

http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/

http://geekfeminism.wikia.com

There are a few others in my blogroll that may also be helpful to you.

If after examining the section of that site that pertains to your question, you are still having trouble understanding an aspect of the concept, feel free to visit one of the open threads on various sites or start your own thread on the forum to discuss your question.

Do not barge into a thread or interrupt an ongoing conversation to demand someone explain the concept to you.

Do not demand a marginalized person justify their person experiences to you.

Actually exercise that ‘good faith’ thing.

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‘Friendly’ Atheism

Apparently, the solution to having someone being threatened and stalked on your forum is to…. ban the person being threatened and stalked.

Cute.

Love how they forgot to delete the actual threats.  No, no, apparently saying you intend to ‘hook someone’s nethers up to a car battery’ as punishment for disagreeing with you is a-okay by Hemant’s standards, but pointing out someone has no clue what drinking laws are and how binding arbitration actually works is totally banworthy.

bickle2

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Carrier is still defending rapists

response

 

He is still pretending that ‘taking advantage’ of someone too intoxicated to consent isn’t rape.  Now it also appears he’s moved on to claiming that if penetration doesn’t occur, it wasn’t rape, thereby erasing almost all women who’ve been raped by other women as well as a significant portion of other rape victims.

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Richard Carrier is not an ally

proof

http://freethoughtblogs.com/carrier/archives/4603

Mr Carrier thinks that getting a woman drunk for the purpose of taking advantage of her sexually is not rape.  The list of allies continually gets shorter.

I love being having yet another so called ally mansplain my experiences to me.  What would my poor pink fluffy ladybrain do without these fine gentlemen?

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‘Racism goes both ways’

I remember working at a farmer’s market, selling eggs.  I had some ‘pre-orders’, folks that had already paid and were going to pick up their eggs on the way back from work.  These eggs were neatly packed into cartons, each with a post it note denoting their owner.  In front of me were two large boxes filled with eggs of various sizes and colors.  Customers could choose which eggs they wanted, and optionally pay 50 cents for a carton, or bring their own.  They could even bring a few extra and receive a 25 cent discount on their eggs.  This particular day, nobody had brought extra cartons, and most folks had purchased a carton.

A white man came up, purchased a dozen eggs, and a carton.  It happened to be my last carton.

As he was living, a black woman came up, wanting to purchase a dozen eggs…. and a carton.  When I was unable to provide a carton for her, she got upset, and demanded I give her one of the set aside cartons.  I couldn’t do that, as those were already the property of someone else.  She got upset, and accused me of not wanting to sell her a carton because she was black.  She then stormed off.

I was angry.  How dare she ‘play the race card’!  How dare she make the ‘racist’ assumption that my motives had to be racist.

And then… I got some fucking perspective.

How many times, in her experience, was it racism?  She was playing against loaded dice.  Sure, now and then things would come out even or in her favor, but the common, and thus expected, result was she lost.  She’d just seen me give a carton to a white man.  It’s admittedly a very odd occurrence for me to run out of cartons.  We live in an area in which minorities are rare (she was the only black customer of the day, and for that matter, I think she was the only black person I’d even seen that day) and thus more easily othered and discriminated against.

The fact that for this particular set of circumstances she was wrong – it was an honest mistake that had nothing to do with her race – doesn’t mean her conclusion was irrational or illogical.  And for all I knew, she could have been discriminated against 9 times that day already.  Was I really justified in being upset because she concluded from the available evidence that this time was the 10th?

She could just as easily have been right.  There is another person who comes to this particular market and sells eggs.  That person refused to sell to a same-sex couple.  Bigotry is not unknown here.

I was Schrodinger’s Racist.
Her accusation cost me nothing.  The sad truth of the matter is that her accusation probably drove a couple customers to me.

Do I feel like a victim of racism due to this event?  I suppose I could stick my head up my ass and make some sort of claim that she was the racist in this situation.  Or…I could try to make sure there are enough egg cartons for everyone.

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