The 101

Before you come in to ‘just ask a question’ in so-called ‘good faith’, visit one of the following sites:

http://www.talkorigins.org/

http://rationalwiki.org

http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/

http://geekfeminism.wikia.com

There are a few others in my blogroll that may also be helpful to you.

If after examining the section of that site that pertains to your question, you are still having trouble understanding an aspect of the concept, feel free to visit one of the open threads on various sites or start your own thread on the forum to discuss your question.

Do not barge into a thread or interrupt an ongoing conversation to demand someone explain the concept to you.

Do not demand a marginalized person justify their person experiences to you.

Actually exercise that ‘good faith’ thing.

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‘Friendly’ Atheism

Apparently, the solution to having someone being threatened and stalked on your forum is to…. ban the person being threatened and stalked.

Cute.

Love how they forgot to delete the actual threats.  No, no, apparently saying you intend to ‘hook someone’s nethers up to a car battery’ as punishment for disagreeing with you is a-okay by Hemant’s standards, but pointing out someone has no clue what drinking laws are and how binding arbitration actually works is totally banworthy.

bickle2

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Carrier is still defending rapists

response

 

He is still pretending that ‘taking advantage’ of someone too intoxicated to consent isn’t rape.  Now it also appears he’s moved on to claiming that if penetration doesn’t occur, it wasn’t rape, thereby erasing almost all women who’ve been raped by other women as well as a significant portion of other rape victims.

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Richard Carrier is not an ally

proof

http://freethoughtblogs.com/carrier/archives/4603

Mr Carrier thinks that getting a woman drunk for the purpose of taking advantage of her sexually is not rape.  The list of allies continually gets shorter.

I love being having yet another so called ally mansplain my experiences to me.  What would my poor pink fluffy ladybrain do without these fine gentlemen?

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‘Racism goes both ways’

I remember working at a farmer’s market, selling eggs.  I had some ‘pre-orders’, folks that had already paid and were going to pick up their eggs on the way back from work.  These eggs were neatly packed into cartons, each with a post it note denoting their owner.  In front of me were two large boxes filled with eggs of various sizes and colors.  Customers could choose which eggs they wanted, and optionally pay 50 cents for a carton, or bring their own.  They could even bring a few extra and receive a 25 cent discount on their eggs.  This particular day, nobody had brought extra cartons, and most folks had purchased a carton.

A white man came up, purchased a dozen eggs, and a carton.  It happened to be my last carton.

As he was living, a black woman came up, wanting to purchase a dozen eggs…. and a carton.  When I was unable to provide a carton for her, she got upset, and demanded I give her one of the set aside cartons.  I couldn’t do that, as those were already the property of someone else.  She got upset, and accused me of not wanting to sell her a carton because she was black.  She then stormed off.

I was angry.  How dare she ‘play the race card’!  How dare she make the ‘racist’ assumption that my motives had to be racist.

And then… I got some fucking perspective.

How many times, in her experience, was it racism?  She was playing against loaded dice.  Sure, now and then things would come out even or in her favor, but the common, and thus expected, result was she lost.  She’d just seen me give a carton to a white man.  It’s admittedly a very odd occurrence for me to run out of cartons.  We live in an area in which minorities are rare (she was the only black customer of the day, and for that matter, I think she was the only black person I’d even seen that day) and thus more easily othered and discriminated against.

The fact that for this particular set of circumstances she was wrong – it was an honest mistake that had nothing to do with her race – doesn’t mean her conclusion was irrational or illogical.  And for all I knew, she could have been discriminated against 9 times that day already.  Was I really justified in being upset because she concluded from the available evidence that this time was the 10th?

She could just as easily have been right.  There is another person who comes to this particular market and sells eggs.  That person refused to sell to a same-sex couple.  Bigotry is not unknown here.

I was Schrodinger’s Racist.
Her accusation cost me nothing.  The sad truth of the matter is that her accusation probably drove a couple customers to me.

Do I feel like a victim of racism due to this event?  I suppose I could stick my head up my ass and make some sort of claim that she was the racist in this situation.  Or…I could try to make sure there are enough egg cartons for everyone.

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False accusations

Falsely accusing someone else of a crime is a shitty thing to do.  It makes life harder on everyone, including actual victims.

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Why (some) men/white people are really angry…

The short answer…because they are stupid.

See, they have this idea in their heads that any right given to someone else is taken away from them.

Giving black people the ‘right’ to drink from whatever water fountain they wanted meant taking away the ‘right’ of white people to have a water fountain from which they can exclude people.  Thus, giving a ‘right’ to black people meant taking away a ‘right’ of white people.  Letting black people sit where they wanted on the bus meant white people lost their ‘right’ to the preferred seating.

Ridiculous?  Absolutely, and a few decades after Rosa Parks, the vast majority of folks can see that.

Except…they can’t.

Because making a video game with a female protagonist means one less video game with a male protagonist.  Welcoming a woman into a poker game means one less chance a man will walk home with winnings.  Putting a woman on a panel means that there is one less man on the panel.

So by giving to women…we take from men.  Just as by giving to blacks, we take from whites.

By making it so women can enter a location without fear of harassment or abuse, we take away from men their ‘right’ to an exclusive place.

By expecting men to treat women with respect, we take away from a man their higher social rank that was kept by putting women in their place.  No matter how low on the totem pole of men a particular guy was, he still had something because he was better than a woman by sheer issue of having a penis.  But now…that’s not true anymore.  Now if he ‘puts a woman in her place’, she dares to object.  To keep that same feeling of special rank, he now has to expend even more effort to put her in her place or at least make her go away so he can keep his fragile status intact.

Making it truly a game based on merit brings home, for some men, the very real possibility that they don’t actually deserve and aren’t actually entitled to the status they possess.

It’s really that simple – fear, masquerading as anger, is the reason for the hatred and bile directed at feminists.

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